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Category: Budget and Expenses
You know those parents who say “Do as I say, but not as I do”? Clearly, this is a different lesson than “Don’t do as I say, but do as I do.” Our kids absorb all kinds of things at an early age. But when we lead by example – good example, that is – we’re likely to instill good habits in our children, whether the example is of the exercise, or good personal finance variety.
Even if you didn’t have good financial habits before you became a parent, becoming a parent may force a new reality on you that gives you little choice but to be more financially responsible and to finally “grow up.” Hey, people have broken worse habits than bad financial habits when they become parents. I know a good many mothers who quit smoking for good when they became pregnant. I also know a few guys who quit running with the boys (and I don’t mean jogging!) when they became fathers.
My wife and I are fortunate that we had pretty good money habits before we became parents to our two little boys. Therefore, it was easy for her to choose to paint a ceramic piggy bank for our oldest son when was she pregnant and out on a craft session with her sister and mom a few years ago. The little fellow in utero did not really understand what that piggy bank was all about, but after he arrived he loved the look of it. It became one of his prized possessions right away – even when it was empty.
Now that he is almost 5 years old, one of his favorite things is getting some of mom’s and dad’s loose change and putting it in his yellow piggy bank. Of course, his younger brother does not want to be left behind which is why he also has a piggy bank in which he likes to put some coins. (As it so often happens with the second child, he only got a store-bought piggy bank. Poor second child!) It has become such a cute ceremony that putting some savings into their piggy banks gives all of us pleasure. You should see the faces on these little boys when the coins disappear in the bellies of these piggies. I have no idea why they enjoy seeing one of the things that they just got disappear again, but they are happy. And so are mom and dad.
What have we accomplished with this ceremony? I can think of two big things right away. First of all, we can easier explain the idea of money to them. For example, when the four-year old asked a while ago to go to the bank to get some money, we could explain to him that we have to put the money in the bank before we can take it out again, since this is similar to what he does with his piggy bank. It wasn’t hard to teach him that Mom’s and dad’s piggy bank is the big piggy bank building.
The second and probably more important result of our ceremony is that our boys seem to connect money with putting it away. You get some money and you run to the piggy bank with it to save it. They may not really understand the concept of money but they understand what money is for. It is for saving. I don’t know if it is by design or not, but we have not given our boys money to buy candy or Matchbox cars yet which would make them connect money with spending it. We will give them some spending money eventually, but by the time they can make spending decisions their savings pattern will have been firmly established. I am pretty sure that they will not easily spend all their spending money. After all, they know that money is to be saved, right?